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“Children Honor and Obey Your Parents”

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The clip from "Esther" is a strong example of a daughter's determination to honor her father. The lesson which contains a story about two brothers' struggles to honor their mother along with A fun matching game and authentic Jewish recipe will help you teach your children the importance of keeping the fifth commandment.

 

SONG

SCRIPTURE

VIDEO CLIP


LESSON SUMMARY

POINTS TO PONDER

 

STORY

TREAT
TIME

ACTIVITY

ACTIVITY PAGES

 

VIDEO CLIP:
The Animated Bible
Esther chapters 8–9
(click on above for full screen)

PRINCIPLE:
Honoring Parents

 

 

PRINT THIS ENTIRE LESSON

 

20-MINUTE LESSON

   

SONG

 
 

Hymn #298 "Home Can Be a Heaven opn Earth"

If you wish to print sheet music or have an online music file to accompany you click on the song link to visit: http://www.lds.org/cm

SCRIPTURE

Esther 4:14–16

 

14. For if thou altogether holdest thy peace at this time, then shall there enlargement and deliverance arise to the Jews from another place; but thou and thy father’s house shall be destroyed: and who knoweth whether thou art come to the kingdom for such a time as this?

 

15. Then Esther bade them return Mordecai this answer,
16. Go, gather together all the Jews that are present in Shushan, and fast ye for me, and neither eat nor drink three days, night or day: I also and my maidens will fast likewise; and so will I go in unto the king, which is not according to the law: and if I perish, I perish.

VIDEO

Watch chapters 8–9 from the animated Complete Learning System, Esther DVD or CLICK FOR CLIP

 

LESSON SUMMARY

 
 

For younger children, it may be helpful to summarize the following ideas:

 

Honoring our parents
“The commandment to honor our parents echoes the sacred spirit of family relationships in which—at their best—we have sublime expressions of heavenly love and care for one another. We sense the importance of these relationships when we realize that our greatest expressions of joy or pain in mortality come from the members of our families.”

Dallin H. Oaks, Ensign, May 1991 © 2007 Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved.

 

What does it mean to honor your father and your mother?

“Honor is a simple word; it means to give special respect and to pay tribute. It means to respond to teachings that have been patiently and thoughtfully given. Each of our families would be more happy if we as children would honor our fathers and our mothers."

Hugh W. Pinnock, New Era, June 1982 © 2007 Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved.

 

Although Mordecai was not Esther’s natural father, he raised her as his daughter and she honored him as her father. When Mordecai asked Esther to go before the king and plead for the life of her people she answered, “...I go in unto the king, which is not according to the law: and if I perish, I perish.” (Esther 4:16.)

Do you think Esther was honoring her father by her actions?

Live according to the correct principles your parents teach you.
“There are two things that [my] parents did with all of their children for which we now honor them. First, they taught us correct principles and helped us walk uprightly before the Lord and live his commandments. Second, they taught us the value of work, personal integrity, and family unity....we have tried to live according to the principles they taught us.”

Lino Alvarez, Ensign, Nov. 1992 © 2007 Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved.

Does the Lord require parents to teach their children correct principles?
(“And they shall also teach their children to pray, and to walk uprightly before the Lord.”
(D&C 68:28).)

 

Quote:

“You children, look to your parents as your very best friends. Listen to what they say. Do what they ask, because that is what the Lord has asked of His people, that children be raised in light and truth and love.”

Gordon B. Hinckley, meeting, Nouméa, New Caledonia, 17 June 2000 © 2007 Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved.

 

POINTS TO PONDER

 
 

Why do you think Mordecai asked Esther to risk her life to save her people?
(“...who knoweth whether thou art come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” [Esth. 4:14].)

Do you think that Mordecai taught Esther correct principles when she was a child?
(“Go, gather together all the Jews that are present in Shushan, and fast ye for me, and neither eat nor drink three days, night or day: I also and my maidens will fast likewise...” [Esther 4:16.] The fact that Esther asked her people to fast for her tells us that she was taught correct principles.)

Why did Esther ask her people to fast for her?
(Esther knew that the power of fasting and prayer would give her the courage she needed to honor her father’s request to go before the king and plead for the life of her people.)

Can fasting and prayer help give you the courage and strength you need to honor your parents?
(“...fasting and prayer is a great way to receive the moral strength and spiritual strength to resist the temptations of Satan.” James E. Faust, Ensign, Sept. 1995 © 2007 Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved.)

 

STORY

Bomber Pilots in the Playroom

 

“I’m going to start dinner,” Mother announced. “ You boys clean up your toys and then come down and help set the table.”

Mother left the boys to clean up and went downstairs. While she was preparing dinner, she was startled by a commotion coming from the playroom. “What are those two up to now?” she said to herself. Turning off the stove Mother hurried back up the stairs to the playroom.

“What are you two doing?” she asked. “This room is a bigger mess than when I left you to clean up!”

The two boys ignored her as they hollered at the top of their lungs while they emptied their toy box and shelves like a couple of tornados.

Exasperated, Mother ducked to miss being hit by flying toys as she approached the boys. “I asked you a question! Why aren’t you cleaning up this room like you were told?”

“Blake threw a toy at me, so I threw one back,” James confessed.

“I’m a bomber pilot!,” Blake roared as he threw another toy across the room.

“Blake stop that, right now!” Mother demanded. “This is your last warning. Now clean up this room.”

“Bomber pilots don’t have to do what you say!,” Blake yelled. The two boys again began running through the room with their arms stretched out like airplanes, screaming at the top of their lungs and throwing toys.

Blake kicked and squirmed as Mother scooped him up into her arms, “That’s enough young man,” she said sternly. “James, come here,” she demanded as she sat down in the rocking chair with Blake. “Boys, this is not how we act in this house!” she continued, “When Daddy or I tell you to do something, you need to obey!

“But, I don’t want to set the table. I want to play bomber pilot,” Blake squealed.

James looked at his mother who was close to tears. He felt ashamed for the way he had been acting. “I’m sorry, Mommy,” he said. “I won’t disobey you anymore!”

“Thank you James! What about you Blake, are you going to obey, Mommy?”

Blake stubbornly shook his head, “No. I don’t have to.”

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“Blake, if you do not do what I ask, you are going to have to sit in time-out.”

“I don’t want to sit in time-out,” Blake wailed.

“Are you going to help James clean up your toys?”

“No!”

Mother surveyed the room. “James, you can clean up your half of the room by putting away twenty toys. Okay?”

“Yes, Ma’am.”

Mother then carried Blake to his room for time-out. “Daddy will be home in about five minutes. You need to stay on your bed until we come up to talk to you,” she warned.

When Father came home, he and Mother discussed Blake’s behavior. Together, they went into Blake’s room. “Mommy tells me that you think you don’t have to obey her. How do you feel now that you’ve been in time-out?” Father asked.

“I don’t like time-out!” Blake answered.

“And I don’t like putting you in time-out! I love you, but I can’t have you being disrespectful and disobedient,” Mother added.

“Blake, do you think Jesus is happy when you disobey Mommy?”

With a feeling of remorse, Blake shook his head no.

“That’s right! Jesus wants us to obey the commandments and Heavenly Father has given us a commandment to honor and obey our parents. Do you know what honor means?” Father asked.

“Uh-uh,” Blake replied.

“To honor your parents means to show love and respect for them. We do this by being obedient and by trying to keep all the commandments,” Mother explained.

“You’ve never heard Mommy talk back to Grandma, like you did her today, have you?” Father asked.

“No! Mommy is always nice to Grandma!”

“That’s because Mommy honors her Mother and Father. Even Mommies and Daddies need to keep the commandments. And what’s the most important reason to keep the commandments?”

“So we can be a family forever and ever with Heavenly Father!”

Blake gave Mother a big hug. “I’m sorry Mommy! I’ll try to always honor you from now on. I promise!

by Margie Nauta Lee © 2007 Living Scriptures, Inc.

 

TREAT TIME

CLICK TO PRINT “Hamantaschen recipe"

Hamantaschen

Prep Time: 5 minutes
Cook Time: 15–17 minutes
Chill Time: 1/2 hour

Directions:

Pre-heat oven to 350 degrees F.
Mix flour, baking powder, salt, and sugar. Cut butter into flour mixture until it resembles cornmeal. Add the beaten egg, orange juice and vanilla. Mix, just until mixture forms a ball. Refrigerate for a 1/2 hour or more. Lightly flour the top of the dough. Roll out to 1/4-inch thick on a lightly greased surface (when you cut the dough, turn it so that the floured surface sits on your palm, and the greased surface holds the filling and sticks together better). Cut the dough into 3-inch rounds. Makes about 30 Hamantaschen.

Treat Time:

Give each family member 2 or 3 rounds. Fill each round with 2/3 tsp. preserves. Then form into triangles by folding up 3 sides and pinching edges together. Bake at 350°F. for 15-17 minutes on lightly greased baking sheets.

(This Jewish cookie recipe is traditionally made during the Feast of Purim, to celebrate the deliverance of the Jews because of Esther’s courage. Hamantaschen means “Haman’s pockets”, but traditionally are said to be the evil Haman’s three pointed hat or his triangular ears.)

 

Ingredients

  • 2 c. all-purpose flour
  • 2 tsp. baking powder
  • 1/4 tsp. salt
  • 3/4 c. granulated sugar
  • 1/2 c. butter
  • 1 egg, beaten
  • 2 T. orange juice
  • 1 tsp. vanilla
  • 2/3 c. apricot preserves
 

ACTIVITY

 

 


Activity: Younger children will need help from an older sibling or parent.

 

1. Place cards face down in even rows.


2. Try to match cards by taking turns picking two cards to turn over. If the cards are not a match turn back over.

3. When a match is found that person will read the situation on the cards.Discuss similar situations that have occurred among your family members that they have done well or how they can do better. The person who turned over the match keeps those cards.


4. The person with the most cards at the end of the game wins.
(Play as many rounds as time permits.)

 

Preparation:

1. Print out the artwork for each group.

2. Fold each sheet of cards along dotted line with printed side up.
3. Unfold and apply glue or paste to blank side.
4. Carefully refold along dotted line. Pressing paste side together.
5. Cut along black solid lines to make cards.

What you need:

A copy of “Honor My Parents" activity cards (artwork included with this lesson), scissors and glue or paste.

 

ACTIVITY PAGES

 
       
         
         
   
 

20-MINUTE LESSON

CLICK TO PRINT "20-MINUTE" LESSON NOTES

 

1. Watch chapter 8 from the animated Complete Learning System, Esther DVD. (Video clip is also provided for viewing online.)

2. Read the fifth commandment:
“Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.” (Ex. 20:12.)

3. What does it mean to honor your father and your mother?
“Honor is a simple word; it means to give special respect and to pay tribute. It means to respond to teachings that have been patiently and thoughtfully given. Each of our families would be more happy if we as children would honor our fathers and our mothers." Hugh W. Pinnock, New Era, June 1982 © 2007 Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved.

4. Although Mordecai was not Esther’s natural father, he raised her as his daughter and she honored him as her father. When Mordecai asked Esther to go before the king and plead for the life of her people she answered, “...I go in unto the king, which is not according to the law: and if I perish, I perish.” (Esther 4:16.)
Do you think Esther was honoring her father by her actions?

5. Why do you think Mordecai asked Esther to risk her life to save her people?
“...who knoweth whether thou art come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” (Esth. 4:14).
(Discuss ideas.)

6. Elder Lino Alvarez said, “There are two things that [my] parents did with all of their children for which we now honor them. First, they taught us correct principles and helped us walk uprightly before the Lord and live his commandments. Second, they taught us the value of work, personal integrity, and family unity....we have tried to live according to the principles they taught us.” Lino Alvarez, Ensign, Nov. 1992 © 2007 Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved.

7. Does the Lord require parents to teach their children correct principles?
“And they shall also teach their children to pray, and to walk uprightly before the Lord.” (D&C 68:28).

8. Do you think that Mordecai taught Esther correct principles when she was a child?
“Go, gather together all the Jews that are present in Shushan, and fast ye for me, and neither eat nor drink three days, night or day: I also and my maidens will fast likewise...” (Esther 4:16.) The fact that Esther asked her people to fast for her tells us that she was taught correct principles.

9. Why did Esther ask her people to fast for her?
Esther knew that the power of fasting and prayer would give her the courage she needed to honor her father’s request to go before the king and plead for the life of her people.

10. Can fasting and prayer help give you the courage and strength you need to honor your parents?
(Discuss ideas.)

 

Quote:
“...fasting and prayer is a great way to receive the moral strength and spiritual strength to resist the temptations of Satan.” James E. Faust, Ensign, Sept. 1995 © 2007 Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved.